Hi Everyone! It’s been a while since I wrote a life update (or even a Weekend Recap post). Lately it’s been mostly Weekly Favorites and Five on Friday posts. I didn’t really plan it out, but looking back, it’s pretty obvious that there’s less and less personal posts. I’ve been thinking a lot about why I feel less inspired to write or share. And, as I alluded to last week, I think it’s primarily that I’ve seen a very ugly side to blogging.
Call me naive, but I didn’t realize all the ways bloggers (particularly very successful bloggers get harassed). Other than getting nasty comments on social media and blogs, entire forums exist with thousands of pages talking shit about bloggers. It’s mind boggling. If you dislike someone so much, why do you insist on reading their blogs, watching their Instastories and reading their tweets? I just don’t get it.
For the most part, no one is paying to read a blog, so what really gives them the right to criticize? To make demands about content, style or pictures? I’ve often heard these people try to justify their behavior by comparing it to someone writing poor reviews on Yelp. But then again, you aren’t personally paying a blogger anything. So, it’s not like writing a review about a crappy restaurant that you paid money to is it?
Although I’ve only had the occasional rude comment, many bloggers I follow get attacked daily. It’s truly disheartening. Just because someone “puts their life out there on the internet” doesn’t mean they deserve for someone to tear them apart – just like me deciding to walk down a public street doesn’t mean I deserve to be attacked verbally or physically. I don’t really care if the comments are superficial such as a comment about someone’s hair or style, or if they are about their parenting choices. Both are equally uncalled for. If you don’t like someone’s style or their recipes, don’t read their blog. It’s so simple.
I’ve read so many blogs over the years, and in some cases blogs I loved switched focus from the topics I was initially drawn to. Was it annoying? Yes, but that doesn’t give me the right to constantly harass someone about how much it sucks that they’ve changed. Similarly, I can get VERY annoyed from the amount of NSale posts out there, but you know what I do? I stop visiting that blog or looking at that particular person’s Instagram. I don’t leave them a nastygram telling them they will fail at life.
Anyways… I could go on and on about this because it makes my blood boil to see people who put so much into their blog (and manage to make an income off of it) get constantly harassed by haters. But, I wanted to be real and share one of the reasons I’ve been so absent lately. I obviously don’t want this to happen to me, as inevitable as it may be. So I’ve been sharing less and less.
However, after much thought, I’m slowly starting to write again. Obviously the majority of my posts will continue to be beauty product focused, but I’ll start writing about other topics again.
And, on that note, I do have two things I want to make clear:
Affiliate Links & Sponsored Posts
As many of you may know, many bloggers make money through affiliate links and sponsored posts. Affiliate links mean that a blogger makes a commission through a click on a product link through their site, or if you purchase the product you clicked on. For the most part, you wouldn’t even realize you are clicking on an affiliate link since you would just get redirected to the retailers website. There is no additional cost to the reader when using affiliate links. The commissions get paid by the retailer.
Sponsored Posts are when a brand directly pays a blogger for a post about a certain product.
Since both are hot topics in the blogging world, I’ve decided not to use Affiliate Links or accept Sponsored posts on Just A Little Blush. I’m very fortunate to have a great full time job that pays the bills. Although the extra income would be nice, it’s not necessary and it’s certainly not the reason why I started this blog. I want to blog exclusively because I enjoy doing it, so adding the income controversy isn’t worth it to me right now.
Even though I’ve used Shop Style Collective in the past, that has been solely for the convinience of getting product links and pictures in one spot. I’ve never actually gotten paid out (I’ve never even completed any payment or tax information to get paid out). Going forward, I will not be using ANY affiliate links.
Side Note: I am NOT implying in any way that I have any issues with anyone monetizing their blog. I think that is amazing and I wish I could blog full time. Unfortunately, bloggers monetizing their blog seems to drive much of the hate. So, at this point in my blogging journey, dealing with that isn’t a priority so I choose not to do it.
Blog & Instagram Comment Policy
For the sake of engaging with readers, free speech and all that business, a lot of bloggers allow all comments on their blog. However, I’m not that cool. This is my blog and my space. I will not approve rude, disrespectful or hate filled comments. And, if I get those on Instagram, the user will be blocked. In the end, this is my space, and if someone doesn’t like it, they are free to move along. I’m not everyone’s cup of tea.
Well, I’m glad to get that off my chest. I initially started the post thinking I’d so a little weekend recap or something, but this is what came out. I’m working on a little Beauty Product Fails post that will (hopefully!) be up this week!